March 23, 2006

Eight Months

Yesterday, amazingly, Mia turned eight months old. Could someone please tell me how this happened? I'm not going to be satisfied with anything less than theories incorporating quantum physics and large proofs containing equations I don't understand. Because I don't think there's any simple way for me to comprehend it.

Some days, it feels as if Mia came into the world eight short days ago. Other times, well, it seems more like eight years. Regardless of how it feels, we have proof. Mia has grown from a cute, sleepy blob into a little girl who's incredibly mobile for her age, able to entertain herself, play the guitar (and by play I mean bang), laugh and, as of yesterday, clap her hands when she's excited. It is absolutely, without doubt, the coolest and most amazing thing I have ever witnessed in my life.

Whenever I walk into a room, Mia smiles. But it's not just a smile. It's something much more radiant than that. As if someone punched a hole in the sky and funneled all the twinkling lights of the universe into her eyes. It makes me proud to be myself and lets me know, when nothing else seems to be going right, that I might not be such a bad guy after all.

Posted by Chris at March 23, 2006 7:19 AM

Babies are amazing "patches" for the soul, aren't they?. Thank God those "patches" become a part of us and make us feel the way they do.

And you're right... you're not "such a bad guy" -- at least not in the Internetwebosphere's eyes! ;-)

Posted by: ironic1 at March 23, 2006 7:37 AM

No one could have put that into words as well as you just did. It's wonderful with your own kids and then when you're my age and your eyes and brains have grown keener and wiser, you'll look at your grandkids in a new and equally marvelous way! Brings you that much closer to comprehending the Meaning of Life, no?

Posted by: JuJu's Mom at March 23, 2006 7:52 AM

Good work mom & dad! Happy eight months to the three of you. Great post, but I'm not gettin' all mushy.


Posted by: JackassJimmy at March 23, 2006 7:57 AM

Enjoy these moments, because one day you're going to wake up and Mia will be this beautiful pre-teen girl, and you'll stare at her in wonder until she says, annoyed, "What?!!"

At least that's how it happened for me. ;-)

Posted by: Alison at March 23, 2006 7:58 AM

They do grow, don't they? In the blink of an eye. In a few months my baby will be FIVE. FIVE, I said! And IN SCHOOL! And it seems like just yesterday that I was wondering if he would ever be able to sit up by himself, or feed himself, or talk. Now sometimes I actually want him to lay down and be quiet!

I've said it before and I'll say it again--Mia has great parents. She's so lucky.

Posted by: Alissa at March 23, 2006 8:07 AM

Occassionally when you mention how old Mia is I have the same thoughts too. "Wait, what? She's six, eight months old? But they were posting pictures of her on day one just yesterday! How, when?" If I go through this I can only imagine how perplexing it must be for you guys! :D

Posted by: pea at March 23, 2006 8:19 AM

If you'd quit drinking you wouldn't be so surprised by her age ;)

Posted by: Pamalamadingdong at March 23, 2006 8:38 AM

awww. what a beautiful post. happy 8 months birthday mia bean!

I spent some time on the weekend with my cousin and his 7-month-old twins. It's amazing how much like people they start to become at this age, not just like the little almost indistinguishable babes they were last time i saw them, but instead now with very distinct personalities, and very active interaction with the world. and then one fell asleep while I was holding him and my heart sighed from the longing....

enjoy every minute with her, as I know you do...

Posted by: suze at March 23, 2006 8:44 AM

Oh my goodness, has it already been 8 months? Of course, I do the same thing with Elizabeth... Oh man... she's 4 and a 1/2 now...

Posted by: amber at March 23, 2006 8:45 AM

give yourself some credit. She's such a happy baby b/c she has two wonderful parents who take such great care of her and great joy in her.

Posted by: kalisah at March 23, 2006 8:59 AM

Oh my goodness, has it already been 33 years? And that's my youngest. The time just flies by.

The ones I'm raising are 10, 11 & 13 now. I don't know where the time goes.

Happy 8 months Mia.

Posted by: ann adams at March 23, 2006 8:59 AM

Ah, dads and their daughters. That was so cute I think I just melted.

Posted by: Jessie at March 23, 2006 8:59 AM

Wait until you walk in the room and they are 15 years old! I can remember so many little things that in the whole scheme of things seem so small to anyone else.
I don't mind growing old and a little "mad", but when I ramble on and on for others I hope that I speak of my children and the wonderful moments I have witnessed of them as they have grown. When I was very young I visited a nursing home often. It is amazing how many people at an old age speak of angry situations in their lives. They relive it every day. So sad. I want to relive the moments that my children made me laugh until I cried.
To the most awesome love of all time! The kids and I!

Posted by: Jamie at March 23, 2006 9:04 AM

What do you mean you're really an okay guy? Don't worry, we won't tell anybody...

I still remember when you guys were trying to conceive-- where did the time go???

Posted by: jen at March 23, 2006 9:13 AM

See? That's what happens when you blink.

Posted by: Pammer at March 23, 2006 9:33 AM

Kids are marvelous, insanely heart-wrenching creatures. And completely, totally fantastic!

Posted by: Queen of Ass at March 23, 2006 9:47 AM

To read those words restores my shaky faith in the male species. To know that someone besides my own better half can derive joy from his own children is nothing less than music. You, Mr. Cactus, are a REAL man.

Posted by: wordgirl at March 23, 2006 9:51 AM

It flies by. I think Einstein has a theory to explain it, or perhaps Stephen Hawking.

When they are this young, they mature so damn fast.

Posted by: Ginny at March 23, 2006 10:24 AM

Awww. It seems like she's only been here a short while; I know you must feel that a thousand times over.

Posted by: Fraulein N at March 23, 2006 10:50 AM

Are you kidding? you're a great guy... that's why she's such a beautiful, happy baby, who'll grow up to be just as cool as her parents.

Posted by: Ava at March 23, 2006 10:59 AM

That effing rules. My wife and I will be parents in a few months for the first time, and I'm totally getting everything I can from your shizzle here. Keep it coming!

Posted by: andy at March 23, 2006 11:00 AM

Awww, sweet. You and Beth are great. I can't believe they grow so fast either! I love how our little ones really do make life worth so much more.

Posted by: catbird at March 23, 2006 11:22 AM

She is not! stop lying to us!

This time goes by way too quickly.. My oldest (baby) just lost her 3rd tooth yesterday.. #4 is right behind it ready to come out.. One day your waiting for all of their teeth to come in, the next you're waiting for them to come out.

Cherish these years.. they do go by quickly!

Posted by: molly at March 23, 2006 11:27 AM

Wow, happy 8 months!

I know what you mean about the time, though... my B just turned 3 over the weekend, and I haven't managed to blog about it yet, because it was so clearly a hallucination... I just had her a few months ago, I'm sure.

Posted by: Kate the Shrew at March 23, 2006 11:48 AM

Mia, Mia, you are growing too fast. Slow down. Your daddy needs you to stay little awhile longer.

There is something about dads and daughters...

Posted by: Lisa B at March 23, 2006 12:00 PM

Parenthood rocks!

Posted by: VirgoJen at March 23, 2006 12:02 PM

Happy 8 Months!!

Posted by: Sabrina at March 23, 2006 12:03 PM

It's all a dirty trick played on us by the universe to keep us procreating... I mean c'mon... Look at the JOB DESCRIPTION... Who would sign up for that?

So the universe, being the smart... uh... universe-like thing that is, hardwired babies with supersonic... uh... gizmos... designed to communicate to directly to your brain that THIS is the MOST INCREDIBLE experience EVER...

Fortunately we get all the bennies in this deal... (you don't find many like that...)


Posted by: Deepblue at March 23, 2006 12:05 PM

Aw, she's already daddy's little girl.

8 months. That doesn't seem right, are you sure you counted correctly? Really? 8 whole months? I'm as baffled as you and I've never met you or Mia.

Posted by: Noelle at March 23, 2006 12:21 PM

It is amazing how quickly they grow and change. My son is 3 and sometimes he will do something or say something or look a certain way and it just takes my breath away. I am always amazed that I have raised this beautiful, soulful little being.

Posted by: Pinky at March 23, 2006 12:25 PM

Wait till she's nine and her sibling (I'm just extrapolating here) is almost six.

I seriously DO.NOT.KNOW. how that happened.

Posted by: candace at March 23, 2006 12:50 PM

That was lovely, Chris. And yes, if it's astounding to us out here, I can't imagine what it's like for you!!

Posted by: Heather at March 23, 2006 12:56 PM

Aww, I'm a little verklempt over here.

Posted by: A.K. at March 23, 2006 1:37 PM

Happy 8 months to Mia! The time does go quickly.

My theory relates to the way stuff grows in 8 months, particularly stuff in your house. When you go out to work or dinner, and turn out the lights and lock the door, your stuff has sex and multiplies. That's why each time you move you have so many more boxes than the last time. It's exponential. :)

Posted by: Laura at March 23, 2006 2:16 PM

Beth's teaching the baby to burp, which I think is so funny.

Not so long ago, Miss Mia was so tiny. And now she's a clapping, wiggling burper.

8 months. Already. Wow.

Posted by: Emily at March 23, 2006 2:29 PM

Dude, I have no crazy theories to give you. And I'm sure you've herad this one before. But you blinked. That's it. Plain and simple, you blinked. And watch out becasue if you do it again, she will walk, talk, throw a tantrum and ride a bike. I tried to pin my eyes open, but it doesn't work. Hubby tried duct tape, to no avail. We've considered putting bricks on our kids heads, but that seems like it might look funny in all the pictures. And I do love me osme pictures. Just enjoy every day, that's the only thing you can do. And happy 8 months to Mia. :)

Posted by: Melissa at March 23, 2006 2:51 PM

Most days when my children smile at me I still feel the same way as you. Although I've heard that because my son and daughter are 14 & 15; I feel lucky that they still speak to me.

Posted by: chantel at March 23, 2006 3:03 PM

"someone punched a hole in the sky and funneled all the twinkling lights of the universe into her eyes"


You are amazing with words.


Happy 8 months to Mia!


Before you know it, she will be 4! My first born will be 4 in just a few weeks. It goes by way too fast.

Posted by: Kelly at March 23, 2006 3:41 PM

Enjoy it, Chris. Because, as we all know too well, the next time you have a poetic moment like this will be when you walk her down the aisle.

And that's, what, in a few days? ;-)

Posted by: oakley at March 23, 2006 4:47 PM

Aww congrats =)

Posted by: pie at March 23, 2006 6:41 PM

kids can be POWERFUL motivators, can't they? ;) that's so sweet.

Posted by: Sarcomical at March 23, 2006 7:22 PM

I love to hear people talk about how much they love their kids and love being parents.

It's exactly what I need to hear right now!

Posted by: Isabel at March 23, 2006 7:27 PM

Relativity dear cactus.

Posted by: dragonlady474 at March 23, 2006 9:59 PM

Congrats Cactus and Fish - and Bigger congratulations to the Bean!

I'm clapping too (like an 8 month old) because we just told the family about our upcoming bundle of dirty diapers...

I can't wait....

Posted by: Greg at March 23, 2006 10:11 PM

I bet it's the best feeling in the world.

Posted by: Bonita in Pink at March 24, 2006 12:00 AM

Hey Chris, I ended up signing up with and wanted your userid so I could maybe hook you up with some free downloads. I figured you're RudeCactus or something along those lines, but if you could let me know for sure, I'll let emusic know too.

Posted by: jessica fantastica at March 24, 2006 5:54 AM

"twinkling lights" is right! And for many of us, we keep trying to recreate that loveliness--and have more kids!

Mine are grown, but I can remember those days of about five months to five years as if they were yesterday. Each day was so new to them (as opposed to the same-old same-old to us), and darn it they relished in it!

Now, not to burst your bubble or anything, but you'll be soon experiencing what some people call "Terrible Twos". Depending on how you handle it as parents determines how "terrible" they are/were. We, on the other hand, called it "The Three M Stage"...because all they say is "Me, Mine, and More". (Is the sound "mmmmm" the easiest sound linguistically for a baby to make???)

At any rate, take lots of pics and video, and when you can't stand her when she's 15, please review your cache of "twinkling lights"!

Posted by: kristen at March 24, 2006 7:19 AM

it is AMAZING watching them grow! Leo was 7 months yesterday. It's true how the day he was born feels like only a few days ago yet i feel like i don't remember life without him.

Posted by: Elena at March 24, 2006 9:15 AM

Awwww :) .. but they don't stay tiny and blobby?

Posted by: Sweety at March 24, 2006 10:55 AM

It's such a strange thing, isn't it, right between I can't believe you're HERE and I can't believe you ever WEREN'T here.

Posted by: Rae at March 25, 2006 3:31 PM