February 16, 2007

Schadenfreude Friday: Airball

From the NBA to the weather, it's been a stupid week. Just really idiotic. Allow me to illustrate.

from SI.com...

Retired Miami Heat guard Tim Hardaway said on a radio show Wednesday that he hates gay people, then later apologized for his remarks.

"You know, I hate gay people, so I let it be known. I don't like gay people and I don't like to be around gay people," Hardaway said while a guest on Sports Talk 790 The Ticket in Miami. "I'm homophobic. I don't like it. It shouldn't be in the world or in the United States."

The host asked Hardaway how he would interact with a gay teammate.

"First of all, I wouldn't want him on my team. And second of all, if he was on my team, I would, you know, really distance myself from him because, uh, I don't think that is right. I don't think he should be in the locker room while we are in the locker room."

I wish I had a more sophisticated, educated response for this other than yelling douchebag at the top of my lungs. But I don't. It's hard for me to imagine how someone who played a game for a living, who made a career salary somewhere north of $46 million, can be so disdainful of the world around him...or any slice of it. Look, I'm not going to dictate what people should think. I don't in any way advocate hatred of anyone based on ethnicity, sexual preference or belief. But if you're a professional athlete to whom thousands of kids look up, you might want to learn how to keep some of that shit bottled up inside.

Will Lost Get Found? Reports indicate that ABC's Lost has hit new ratings lows. I love the show but I'll freely admit that it jumped the shark in a major way. How bout some answers? Sawyer? Locke? Answer me, dammit!

Transportation Versus Weather: Guess Which One Won. Some really unfortunate Pennsylvania drivers were stuck on the road for over 24 hours while certain unlucky air travelers were trapped in planes for 11 hours. At least if you're stuck on the road, you can pee in the snow.

Schadenippy: Our heat went the way of R&B legend James Brown yesterday. It was a chilly night.

Posted by Chris at February 16, 2007 7:19 AM

Hardaway is a douchebag. What an idiot. His world just got smaller. So did his brain.

Sorry about the heat. At least you have a fish and bean to keep you warm.

Posted by: nila at February 16, 2007 7:43 AM

I'm fairly certain gay people aren't lining up to be Asshat Hardaway's friends anyway. His loss.

Also, I get pissy if I'm in a car for 24 hours and I'm actually moving. I can't imagine it at a standstill.

Also, also, they're gonna come fix your heat today, right?

Posted by: Contrary at February 16, 2007 7:54 AM

I found the Hardaway dialogue hysterical. He's so stupid he doesn't realize that "homophobic" is derogatory. Funny stuff.

I hope your heat is fixed soon.

Posted by: Maria at February 16, 2007 8:05 AM

In total agreement -- I don't give a shit what other people think, even when it's stupid, but when you're a role model for young kids, put a cork in it. In the end, he just comes off looking like an asshole, but like Cher once said, 'words are like weapons, they wound sometimes.'

I finished watching Lost on Wednesday night and was totally...lost. It was a good episode but I was confused for the majority of it. I'd like some answers too.

And I hope your heat comes back, PRONTO.

Posted by: mamatulip at February 16, 2007 8:18 AM

Our heat was out too! Must be a furnace conspiracy.

Posted by: donna at February 16, 2007 8:46 AM

I wish I had a more sophisticated, educated response for this other than yelling douchebag at the top of my lungs.

I think it's the perfect response, actually.

Posted by: mingaling at February 16, 2007 8:58 AM

I wrote the following about Lost Back on September 15th -

Lost - I admit it. I am the one person in America that did not watch Lost. Not one single episode. But like Desperate Housewives (though not quite as much), lost a bit of its luster and shine during season two, something I like to call the “Twin Peaks Effect.” When a show comes off a huge as Lost did it is hard to keep up that pace and expectation level. It will be interesting to see if Lost can hold on.

I can't even begin to fine a polite way to respond to Hardaway. I just sort of wish he knew what it felt like to have had to live through the days where separate water fountains, locker rooms, and hell even separate sports leagues were used to help segregate out "those blacks." Guess he didn't take any lessons from history towards discrimination.

I have to admit, I really expected to find here today the story about Bill O'Reilly being canceled as a Keynote Speaker at the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children after his outrageous comments and quotes about Shaun Hornbeck.

Posted by: JayMonster at February 16, 2007 9:03 AM

I'm so afraid you'll misunderstand what I'm trying to say. Homophobia is ugly. Racism is ugly. I've spent much of my adult life fighting both.

But I'm much less afraid of the Hardaways of the world than I am of the genteel folk who cloak their homophobia and/or racism under polite words. They do far more damage because they sound sane. You hardly notice the white sheet under the business suit.

Anytime a person starts off by saying "some of my best friends are", I wait for the bigoted statement to follow. To me, that's far worse than Hardaway's outburst. He was wrong, he was stupid, but he wasn't hiding his homophobia under polite words or rationalizations.

There are no openly acknowledged gays in the major male professional sports. It isn't just Tim Hardaway who is keeping them fearful and silent; it's the tacit approval of every player, owner, or manager who either doesn't speak up or secretly thinks the same thing. And therein lies the danger.

Have a great weekend.

Posted by: ann adams at February 16, 2007 9:23 AM

I saw some followup to the Hardaway thing saying that he said he didn't really mean it. Riiiight. Is "gayhab" in his near future, too?

Publicists can only do so much damage control after the fact. Maybe they need to start putting shock collars on their clients, so every time they start to say something awful, or get out of a car with no panties on, they get zapped.

I hope your heat is restored quickly!

Posted by: Kate the Shrew at February 16, 2007 9:24 AM

I like how homophobic people always assume that gay people are attracted to EVERYONE of the same sex.

Saying that a gay guy will want to have sex with every man in the world is like saying a straight guy will have sex with ANY woma-- er... okay, bad example.

Posted by: Kaz at February 16, 2007 9:32 AM

Yeah, I loved the first season of Lost, but then gave up after that. And airlines are always just stupid.

Posted by: Heather at February 16, 2007 9:49 AM

People who are kids' heroes need to learn to act like heroes. That conversation was disgraceful.

The Pennsylvania road jams - also disgraceful.

Posted by: cassie-b at February 16, 2007 9:49 AM

Hardaway is such a dumbass. People who act like you can "catch" being gay from just being around gay people are just plain stupid. John Amaechi is a class act, and Shaquille O'Neal came out with some really supportive words. And kudos to Stern for banning Hardaway from the All-Star events in light of his homophobic rant.

Never got the whole "Lost" thing. My sister is a rabid fan -- she recently got a DVR system because her son had a ballgame on Wednesday nights from time to time. The show sounds like science fiction to me.

Hope your heat can be revived. Is it anything serious?

Posted by: coolchick at February 16, 2007 9:57 AM

Did you call your landlor-- oh, right, nevermind. It was a mighty cold night indeed.

Posted by: shelley at February 16, 2007 9:57 AM

If I was going to go on a radio talk show and say something like that I would like to think that I could articulate a little better. He just sounded dumb.

Aside from him saying something that is totally off base and the fact that he has nothing to back it up, this is one of those things that breeds ignorance.

Posted by: Kyle I at February 16, 2007 10:05 AM

My cousin's husband was one of those people trapped on the road in PA. I would much rather be stuck in my car than on a plane.

Hardaway is entitled to his opinion, even if I think he's wrong. But, as you say, as a public figure you must think before you speak. Especially if your words encourage hate.

Posted by: Annie at February 16, 2007 10:50 AM

I'm pretty sure gay people hate ignorant douchebags. Maybe this is the universe's way of evening things out.

God, I hate people who don't know how to keep their stupid mouths shut.

Posted by: Fraulein N at February 16, 2007 10:55 AM

Dude, Lost Sucks. I get that you like it and so does everyone else, but I can't do it. I barely got through Lord of the Flies.

On a side note, please tell me you watch The Office and saw the bit about Dwight finding it normal that a Vampire Bat would come to PA because of the -sylvania part. I wished I lived in PA in that moment.

Posted by: andy at February 16, 2007 11:00 AM

Love me some LOST. But I haven't watched it live this season because 10 p.m. is late for me. Despite the shark jumping, I'm still watching for 4 reasons: Sawyer, Jack, Beared and tanned Desmond, and waiting for Paulo's (Rodrigo Santoro) shirt to come off. Hehe.

Posted by: oakley at February 16, 2007 11:08 AM

...and by "beared" I meant "bearded"...whoops.

Posted by: oakley at February 16, 2007 11:09 AM

Really Tim?! And if someone else replaced the word "gay" with "black"...how would you feel then?

Proof yet again that just because you're rich or talented doesn't mean you're smart.

Posted by: MammaLoves at February 16, 2007 11:12 AM

Our heat at home died this week also. And this morning, my manager walked into work and said his went out last night too. AND it was actually only 27 degrees here in Houston this morning...which might as well be sub-zero to us.

And Hardway - I've heard the interview several times now and still can hardly believe he let that come out of his mouth.

Posted by: Tomika at February 16, 2007 11:12 AM

Homophobia (at least...with men who suffer from it)is what happens when a guy who previously condoned predatory male-on-female behavior...and because he accepts the fact that guys can be predators who don't take "no" for an answer...he makes the connection that gay men are still men and that's when the discomfort begins.It's the old "what goes around comes around" philosophy.

Of course, this guy is a total ignoramus for thinking the way he does. All gay men are no more attracted to ALL men any more than all heterosexual men are attracted to All WOMEN.

But you'd have to be a smart person to rationalize that and Hardaway clearly isn't.

Also, he deserves a cuff to the back of his head for being inarticulate. He says that gays don't belong in the world or even in the country. ASSHOLE! The United States IS IN THE WORLD!

Posted by: wordgirl at February 16, 2007 11:15 AM

I'm glad Timmy said that, now I don't have to defend myself everytime I admit that I've never liked him.

Posted by: whit at February 16, 2007 11:46 AM

It never ceases to amaze me what some people will say in public without engaging their brain first. He had to have known he was being offensive, and he kept going with it! That's the truly ridiculous part of the entire issue. What a moron.

Sorry about your heat. Not the best month for it to go kaput. Brrrr ....

Posted by: Stacey Wysong at February 16, 2007 12:42 PM

I'd've gladly given you some of our heat from yesterday.... ours broke the opposite way and it was like over 80 in our house all day. Sully couldn't even nap because he was so hot.

I don't watch Lost, so I'm not sad it lost viewers. My husband though, he says its still good. Not as good as Heroes though. The problem is that they have the show online, so people can watch it later rather than right away. (Although, with TiVo, I guess thats true for any show...)

Posted by: Phoenix at February 16, 2007 12:47 PM

Did you really just invent the word Schadenippy? This is the best word EVER.

Posted by: Vaguely Urban at February 16, 2007 1:30 PM

Lost, lost me when they failed to answer any questions, any time. I mean, come on, eventually someone has to know something!

Posted by: Maribeth at February 16, 2007 2:37 PM

Still nothing on Lou Pearlman, eh? You need to read the Orlando Sentinel - it's a hoot!


Posted by: Shash at February 16, 2007 2:52 PM

My god, yes. I read that and thought, "could you be a bigger friggin' moron?" Aside from the fact that I'd hope someone who had likely experienced discrimination in his life would be a bit more open-minded, I think you would have had to live in a hole lately to not notice the fact that (see: Isiah Washington) it's not okay to bring your hate public.

I'm not an advocate of hate or violence -- but sometimes, I really do want to hit people in the head.

Posted by: sandra at February 16, 2007 4:08 PM

Hardaway - complete jackhole

Lost - pissing me off

Stuck in snow - been there, froze that

Missing heat - wishing you warm thoughts!!

Have a great weekend!

Posted by: Sue at February 16, 2007 4:25 PM

You know what's funny about Lost? Hoop and I think it's gotten better and better each season. Of course we always like things that are about to be discontinued (cereal, clothes, cars). So it could be a sign.

Posted by: Tink at February 16, 2007 4:38 PM

When I first read the quote by Hardaway I thought it was a joke. I mean, it's the year 2007, who says that crap? Even if you think it (and you should NOT think that way) you should NEVER say it out loud. What a douch.

As much as "Lost" is making me crazy...I keep watching it. I don't know who's the bigger loser here; the writers for writing this crap, or me for watching this crap?!

No heat at the cactusfish house? That blows. Sorry.

Posted by: Isabel at February 16, 2007 5:20 PM

Lost is driving me crazy. I'm getting sick of the flashbacks and lull in the storylines. I want to see things moving forward and quickly. If not, I'm going to quit watching. They kill Charlie, I'm done.

Tim Hardaway was being a stupid ass. I'm hoping that some good comes from this. People are discussing this. Whether hateful people will admit it or not, gays are everywhere--they just don't see it.

Professional sports is a tough one. I can't imagine the courage it would take to come out to your team. Teams spend so much time together that I have to think his reaction would be more the norm than not. Though, I would love to be wrong.

Stay warm.

Posted by: Diane at February 16, 2007 6:33 PM

Hardaway: Ditto what you said.

Lost: I'm still watching, waiting, because I think it's still one of the better shows on TV. When exactly do you feel it jumped the shark? I can think of a few instances.

Weather: My best friend missed her flight out of CT Wednesday morning. The earliest they could get her out of New England was a flight out of JFK today. Then she decided to drive from CT to NY in the bad weather on Wednesday instead of waiting for it to clear up. Stupid girl - it's a wonder she didn't end up like those poor people in PA.

Schadenippy: Hope your heat is back on by now. Twice this week I came home to find my gas had been turned off, and twice I had to call the gas company to turn it back on so I could have heat. Is something in the air?

Posted by: Beth in StL at February 16, 2007 7:24 PM

I could not possibly agree more with you on the Lost front. I am so overwhelmed by all the questions that I so carefully gathered in my head from the beginning, cause I know that it is impossible to answer them all now.

Posted by: Dee at February 16, 2007 8:59 PM

So does anyone else think it's funny that a guy called "Hardaway" is a homophobe?

Anyhow, you know what "they" (whoever "they" may be) say: "Thy protesteth too much..."

Posted by: E :) at February 16, 2007 9:11 PM

We live pretty close to the PA roads that still have sections shut down because of the weather. At least the mayor is taking responsibility! I used to commute down one and likely would have gotten caught myself. Hooray for coincidences in my favor! (Though I'm not stupid enough to sit in my car for 24 hours while I'm an hour walk from my house.)

Posted by: Adam at February 16, 2007 10:16 PM

RE: Hardaway - It's going to be fun watching him back-peddle on this one. $20 says he's in rehab by next Tuesday

RE: Lost - I was on the fence there for a while, but last week's episode brought me back. Go go Desmond!

Posted by: croutonboy at February 17, 2007 1:24 PM

Ooh, I'm a big Lost fan as well. Although I'm totally confused with all this new stuff going on. I'm LOST, if you will. Also, I'm definitely not funny.

Posted by: angela at February 17, 2007 4:05 PM

Yup. That dude is a dumbass. A hateful one at that.

Posted by: motherofbun at February 17, 2007 5:40 PM

Yeah, that Tim Hardaway. What an ass.

And ironic too, as he has such a great gay-porn-star name.

Posted by: Librarian Girl at February 17, 2007 8:43 PM

You know that theory about how most extreme homophobes are actually supressing their own homoerotic desires? Yeahhh I think that should be called the Tim Hardaway theory. What a tool, it's pathetic.

And, Lost? Peaked in the second season. I can't stop watching though, out of some lame hope that it'll get better haha.

Posted by: kate at February 18, 2007 7:49 PM

I think "douchebag" is very appropriate. I have way too many gay friends to even consider people like him.

Posted by: Debra at February 19, 2007 12:14 AM