September 29, 2008

The Weekend During Which I Almost Lost My Shit

As the title might suggest - subtly, because I'm all about subtlety - this weekend was a little rough. Let's recap.

On Thursday morning, I received an IM from Beth asking me to come home as soon as I could. She was sick. Now, I expected the worst because Beth is tough when it comes to being sick. Much tougher than I. And she was in quite a bit of pain. So I took over and spent the rest of the day trying to entertain Owen - very mommy-focused and teething - and Mia, who could barely contain her enthusiasm after a double super-happy fun day at preschool.

I canceled all the meetings I had to be at work in person for on Friday and worked from home on and off while playing relief-parent for Beth. Of course, by this time I was also feeling like hell which explains the hour or two I can't really account for sitting in front of the computer in the basement. I must have drifted off or passed out. Huh. Luckily, by Friday evening, Beth was feeling better.

We woke up early on Saturday and Mia and I headed to her swimming class. We came home then she and I headed back out to run some errands and pick up lunch. After that, Mia's attitude quickly devolved into something resembling Joan "No Wire Hangars" Crawford. Owen wasn't pleased either. And in the Most Uncool Parenting Moment of 2008 (So Far), I actually uttered the phrase I've had it up to here with that attitude which instantly made me feel George Burns Old (if George Burns were still alive, that is). Mia and Beth went off to watch a local marching band competition because Mia is nothing if not obsessed with marching bands. Meanwhile, Owen and I hung out, he screamed at me, I took it and replayed the movie Spinal Tap in my head hoping for a laugh. We eventually sat down and watched an old episode of Knight Rider I found on TV. Owen loved it. The Hoff comes through again.

Around 11:30 on Saturday night, something started bugging Mia. I ended up with her all night. And as much as I'd like for you to think I was incredibly put out by this thus continuing my weekend of parenting hell, I've got to tell you that it was pretty wonderful. I have the feeling there will be fewer and fewer opportunities in which I can wake up in the middle of the night to find my little girl wrapped around me. I'll take all of them I can get.

God had it right with that whole resting on Sunday thing. I'd like to report that I did nothing but sit around in my jammies and watched football but it was a little more involved than that. Luckily, the kids were in good moods and Beth and I both continued to feel better.

Now its Monday (duh). I have three ten or eleven hour days ahead of me but I'm not going to sweat that too much. I've vowed to take Thursday and Friday off. My brain, my body and my attitude needs it.

And that is how I almost lost my shit this weekend. How did you spend your weekend? And what's pushed your buttons lately?

Posted by Chris at September 29, 2008 6:15 AM

what is pushing my buttons? Fantasy football is pushing my buttons. Weekends in our house (oh, and week nights too, who are we kidding) involve hubby sitting around checking which players are injured and trying not to miss a last minute trade or putting a different player in and then all day Sunday, he's checking his score and bitching if his opponent is winning. News flash; YOU are not really playing. It's pretend. That's why they call it "fantasy". Um, chillout?

I hate fantasy football.

Sigh. Glad that y'all are recovering though and that you got some quality time with your kids. That's awesome...

Posted by: Sarah at September 29, 2008 8:11 AM

How do you do it? Every time, you write a post that should have me wincing in sympathy for you, but I still always end up smiling at how you handled it and how you finished the post. :)

What's pushing my buttons right now? Team work. Trusting each other's work. Communicating. Or the lack there of.

Posted by: Hannah at September 29, 2008 8:27 AM

I had to work on Saturday, so my weekend felt like it was approximately five minutes long. That's pushing my buttons.

Posted by: Fraulein N at September 29, 2008 8:58 AM

Ok. I did not have a rough week/weekend, but I did have to work a half day on Saturday. Then I went shopping for boots so I was cheered up instantly :) Husband made dinner and made dinner on Sunday too ...he is the best :) I did the same thing on Sunday ...nothing except watching TV and movies yeah!!!

One gripe ...I have been dealing with a lot of snarky people lately. People who really don't have a great way of expressing themselves appropriately. So I was irritated last week by blowholes and arrogant asshats!!!!

Posted by: Julie Andel at September 29, 2008 9:08 AM

Mostly my weekends are so full that I don't mind Monday anymore. It's a drastic change of pace (because I ride a desk all day instead of chasing kids) and I enjoy sitting down for a while.

But then of course, I miss the kids all day.

The only thing pushing my buttons is the internal struggle of wanting to write more and not having an outlet. I think about it a lot.

Posted by: Brad at September 29, 2008 9:09 AM

I'm glad to hear everyone is feeling better.

Let me know if you want me to hunt for a fancy cane for you. If you are going to be an old man, you might as well be dapper.

Pushing My Buttons.
Work. The S-T-R-E-S-S she is killing me.
Work. The hours have been long, 13-14 hour days.
Work. A**hat attorneys with no common sense, lacking courtesy, disrespectful, condescending, book smart-people stupid, etc.

Have a great Monday!

Posted by: Maria at September 29, 2008 9:17 AM

I have to submit a polished, edited, perfectly formatted manuscript on Wednesday for class and I have exactly 2 1/2 pages of the story written. Just written. It needs to be finished (first it needs a plot) and then edited and revised and made wonderful. By Wednesday. I have NO desire to do it. I was supposed to finish it this weekend so I could spend today, tomorrow, and Wednesday (early) polishing.

Also, I have a friend who creates her own drama and then bathes in it like it's fancy French water and then complains because now she's all wet.

Bah. Grumblegrumblegrumble.

Posted by: Sparkle Pants at September 29, 2008 10:15 AM

My latest button-pusher was a who... It involved someone watching a porn video OVER AND OVER..AT WORK... When I asked him to close it and move on in the docs he was reviewing - his response: "yeah - in a minute - whatever..." !!!!!He could have said almost anything else and it would not have fazed me one bit - but "in a minute"... The woman sitting next to him thanked me though :)

Posted by: Sue R at September 29, 2008 10:54 AM

This weekend was painful. 2 days last week I had a meeting to go to by 7:30am so I had to get the Dictator up at 6:30 to go to Grandmas house. Normally he sleeps until 7:30-8:30am. Since those two days he has gotten up at 6:20 every freaking morning and he is KILLING me and my hugely pregnant ass.

Also, he is getting up over and over at night convinced he is missing out on the Garbage Trucks. Freaking Garbage Trucks.


Posted by: Sleepynita at September 29, 2008 11:18 AM

Pushing my buttons?... Work... like most people I've got a mountain to climb, and everytime I think I'm nearing the summit, more caves of cr@p are found.
The state of the economy and the stubborn reds that I'm surrounded with that persist in trying to convince themselves that it's everyone's fault but their own.

General marital stuff... I've been running my ass of at home and interestingly enough the only things getting done are the things I'm doing because my huband has been kicking back doing jack shit.... so we had a "chat" this weekend.

My baby girl and I have been butting heads lately. It's typical 2yr old stuff.... but this does not bode well for the future!! ;-)

Posted by: varinia at September 29, 2008 11:20 AM

I don't think I've ever said "I've had it up to here" but my 2 1/2 year old learned a new word this weekend: unacceptable. As in, that behavior is unacceptable. Good thing we love our kids, isn't it?

Posted by: rebecca at September 29, 2008 11:26 AM

We spent our weekend setting up a 55 gallon fish tank! It was our gift to ourselves for the child support saga finally coming to a definitive end (and resulting in lots of tax monies being given back to us!!)

Posted by: Michelle at September 29, 2008 11:42 AM

Saturday, our daughter cut her first tooth! And, despite what all the books say, she got *more* cranky after the tooth appeared. More coming soon?

As for the rest of the weekend: where the hell did the box of raspberry creme-centered chocolates go? That about sums it up. I'm still trying to find them, by the way. So, if anyone out there has seen them, please let me know. The mom of a teething six month old can only take so much.

Posted by: Laura at September 29, 2008 12:25 PM

A two-fer.

Funeral Thursday
Came home to mother in law
Staying for a week

Posted by: alektra at September 29, 2008 12:31 PM

Ok I had to laugh when I read back the comments and saw this Posted by Sparkle Pants:

Also, I have a friend who creates her own drama and then bathes in it like it's fancy French water and then complains because now she's all wet.

Bah. Grumblegrumblegrumble.

That is so funny and I have a friend at work who totally fits this description!!!!!! hee hee :)

Posted by: Julie Andel at September 29, 2008 12:48 PM

Moving from VT to NYC pushed my buttons. There is something else that pushes my buttons that I'd rather not speak about, but thank you for at least letting me say that much out loud because it makes me feel better.

This weekend, as all weekends are, was a blur, but I do know that the highlight of my weekend was getting to spend time with my boyfriend, his ex, his ex's partner, and his ex's 4 children. I can't explain it, most people would not even entertain doing such a thing, let alone enjoy doing it, but I loved every minute of being there with them.

Posted by: Poppy at September 29, 2008 3:37 PM

I had a great weekend but still managed to have PLENTY of bitch and moan about and have my buttons pushed by...the financial markets and the stress this is causing me at work, the early morning starts because day light savings is about to start the sun is up at like 5.00am and my daughter is right behind it, the fact that I got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning but it is actually the same side I get up on every day, the fact that EVERY night she cries out I would KILL for a sleep where I could just sleep all. the. way. through. The fact that when I can sleep in I actually wake up and can't sleep in at all. I could go on but I don't want to seem too cranky. Or ungrateful. Hope you have a better week!

Posted by: Beth at September 29, 2008 6:39 PM

Wicked bad weekend. I went up against a German and lost, well, not lost, but found myself in a tough situation.
Far away from home, in the driving rain, sad, and frustrated by the circumstances, I felt true despair. Now I am finally home and feeling better.

Posted by: Maribeth at September 29, 2008 7:44 PM

Oh the attitude, well we've got that daily over here. I wish I could tell you it passes, but my momma taught me not to lie.

I had a baby on Thursday night and spent the weekend smelling his head and kissing his cheeks.

Posted by: Issa at September 29, 2008 8:03 PM

The kid has been awesome at pushing my buttons lately. And I say "I have had it up to here" on a weekly basis. Woo.

That aside, we actually had a fun weekend, cause all the sickness was LAST weekend.

Posted by: Aimee Greeblemonkey at September 29, 2008 8:11 PM

Was Mia bugged by Paul Newman passing away? I remember you saying something about her being obsessed with him on the salad dressing bottle. Okay, so maybe she's not even remotely aware that he died. But he did. And he was cool, handsome, a great actor and an incredible philanthropist. I'm sure she felt it.

What has been pushing my buttons lately? That we're fixing up my late father's home to sell, but the crap neighbors next door insist on partying in the yard, parking in OUR yard and driveway, and being general thugs. It's scaring away any potential pre-listing sales. They are pissing me the hell off. I emailed the chief of police today, and called the owner of the house a couple of days ago. We'll see which effort pays out.

Okay, rant over.

Posted by: coolchick at September 29, 2008 8:51 PM

My husband and I both had the plague this weekend too, but fortunately - very fortunately - my kids spent most of the time playing together happily and entertaining themselves.

I did, however, nearly lose my shit on Friday when my daughter threw a tantrum of epic proportions in the preschool parking lot in front of all the other mothers and teachers.

Posted by: Kimberly at September 29, 2008 10:21 PM

I have to say that I laughed out loud at "I've had it up to here with that attitude", but only because this weekend I actually did quite a bit of evolving into my own mother. I'm reassuring myself that it was just because I spent the weekend taking care of one that was sick, had to get up at 5 a-freaking-m to take the other one to school on Saturday for an orchestra trip, and spent every other minute doing all the regular weekend chores like laundry while sewing opera costumes and baking a giant cake for a party for a dog. No . . . really . . . a. dog. Somehow I have managed a cheerful Monday. I may have snapped completely.

Posted by: OS at September 29, 2008 11:12 PM

Gosh, sorry your weekend wasn't all that great. Not to rub it in, but mine was pretty nice. Hope you're both feeling back to normal now!

Posted by: Dianna at September 30, 2008 12:07 AM

Pressing buttons? Oh, the husband who has decided that staying up all night 'with the baby' (read: playing video games) is equivalent to the 8 am to 10 pm I take care of him (the baby sleeps usually from 10pm 'til 8am and we are both off of work right now). That spending 2 hrs in the kitchen cooking an admittedly fantastic meal, while I watch the baby, is the same as my 12-14hr days cooking supper, doing laundry, trying to keep the house neat and, oh yeah, watching the baby! That when I collapse from exhaustion/flu/time of the month at 9:30pm (he called it 'going to bed early') he decides this would be a great time to let the baby scream for an hour while he ... I have no idea what he was doing. I just know I'm exhausted and the week is barely begun. If any of you know how to get a 6 month old to NAP at all, you can have every peanut butter chocolate chip cookie in my house right now!

Posted by: attilathehen at September 30, 2008 4:54 AM