June 21, 2010


It's neat, I guess, that there's a whole day set aside for fathers. Sure, it might be a greeting card holiday developed in some corporate board room - by men - designed to sell cards and, maybe, get wives to serve up a manhattan and a cigarette when they got home (I choose to believe that this was a holiday cooked up by Darren Stevens and Larry Tate in the early 60's and if you don't understand that reference, please look it up but don't tell me about it because it will make me feel old) but its nice to be recognized.

But I have to admit, when I contemplate Father's Day, I end up thanking the lord Ronnie James Dio that I've got moms in my life.

As a dad, I have it easy. Sure, I get up every morning and head to work to earn the cash but I get to rejoin the real world. You know, the world where people go out to lunch at nice restaurants, have meetings to discuss all the stuff they have rattling around their brains, and communicate with other similarly knowledgable adults. While I am always a father, I get to escape fatherhood's duties for at least a few hours a day. Beth doesn't, at least not often.

And while dads can't replace moms any more than moms can't replace dads, its moms that are the heroes in this equation. Moms provide a child's entire world for nine months and struggle to set that life free. Its moms who, at least for the first few years of life, get called in the middle of the night, administer healing kisses to boo-boos, and vanquish a bad dream.

I guess what I'm trying to say in a very long-winded, roundabout way is this. I am honored to be a father. It is the greatest job I have ever had. I often finding myself thinking holy shit, I'm a dad and while this shouldn't be any great surprise after five years of dadhood, it still takes me by surprise and humbles me greatly. But I couldn't be the dad I am without the wife I have. And the beautiful kids the two of us brought, together, into the world.

Happy belated Father's Day to all the dads out there. And to all the moms who help them be great dads.

Posted by Chris at June 21, 2010 6:57 AM

And you are a fabulous Dad! Really. Actually I think the combo of you and Beth as parents to be a really good one. Your kids are very lucky!

Posted by: Maribeth at June 21, 2010 7:47 AM

Beautiful post. I think when moms and dads recognize the contribution the other makes, it makes parenting easier. Well, and marriage too!

Posted by: sarah at June 21, 2010 8:30 AM

What a great blog Chris!
Happy Belated Father's Day!

Posted by: Rose @Dozenroses13 at June 21, 2010 9:42 AM

Bravo, Chris. Happy Father's Day.

Posted by: Bridget at June 21, 2010 10:38 AM

Chris, you are a great dad! I find that I can not my job as well without dad in the pictures.

Posted by: debb at June 21, 2010 10:50 AM

We had Bewitched in France too. It's called "Ma sorcière bien-aimée", Darren was called Jean-Pierre and Larry was Alfred (!?). I loved it (and still do).

Posted by: viviane at June 21, 2010 12:12 PM

i couldn't agree more, ha! ;D

happy fathers day! i think you must be a great one!

Posted by: kati at June 21, 2010 4:05 PM

Well put, Chris. The good parents realize that they are in this together with their partner.

Posted by: One Mom's Opinion at June 21, 2010 5:16 PM

You're a good man, Chris Cactus. Happy Fathers Day :)

Posted by: Heather at June 21, 2010 6:11 PM

Oh, and I got the Bewitched reference even though I'm 15(ish? I think) years younger than you, because...hooray re-runs ;)

Posted by: Heather at June 21, 2010 6:12 PM

Happy belated Father's Day to you too!

I have to give you my perspective as a stay-at-home dad though. I don't spend much time with adults during the day, and so far I'm vastly preferring the "real world" in which I hang out with my kids to the workaday world. Maybe that's why I got more "Happy Mother's Day" messages than "Happy Father's Day" ones this year. Or maybe that's because my friends are just assholes.

Posted by: beta dad at June 22, 2010 3:11 AM

Very nice Chris!!! We are in the middle of senior prom/graduation in the next week, enjoy it, time goes by so quickly..sigh...when my son graduates on Monday, would you and Beth consider adopting me??? lol...I will bring the beer!!!

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