December 20, 2012
Before we had Owen and our parental experience was limited solely to Mia, I put a lot of stock in the whole nurture part of the nature versus nurture argument. Nearly five years into being a parent to two, I'm not so sure. The differences between girls and boys are striking. Despite all our best efforts, for example, Mia became enamored with princesses (though thankfully that fascination is on its way out) and Owen learned how to turn anything (a paper towel roll, a pencil, a piece of cake) into a gun.
But that's not my point.
(And the point might be hard to stumble upon since I spent half the night in a twin bed with a boy who has some sort of chronic sinus problem and an ENT appointment tomorrow whilst his sister again showed off her fever-getting prowess in the next room over.)
My point is this.
(See, I'm getting to it.)
I wonder where the tipping point is in that nature versus nurture argument when it comes to the quirks my kids seem to have in abundance. For example, from the stairs, there are two hallways that connect to the living room. Owen has decided that one is totally off limits unless it necessary to shut the bathroom door in the other hallway. And it is required that all doors remain shut at all times. For her part, Mia - a very precise, organized and tidy person normally - seems to believe that she must sleep with everything she owns for her bed is piled with stuff. I asked her how she could possibly sleep with half of her room on her bed and she told me when I'm forced to sleep in a little ball it makes me feel all cozy. Mkay.
Anyway, I naturally wonder how much of these and the many other examples of kid quirkiness were preprogrammed and how much of it Beth and I influenced. And if these were at least partially influenced by us, what did it take to push that button? Some pattern of behavior on our part or a simple sentence over dinner?
Now if you'll excuse me, I have to make another cup of coffee and make sure that Mia hasn't been crushed under the weight of the crap on her bed.Posted by Chris at December 20, 2012 8:37 AM