March 19, 2013


Before the advent of Owen, I was never really sure where I came down in the age-old nature versus nurture argument as it pertained to the differences between girls and boys. My mind was quickly settled when Owen became, well, Owen and the differences were abundantly clear.

A couple of weeks ago, I downloaded the Sims app for my iPad. Both kids were transfixed. Their gameplay speaks volumes.

Mia's Gameplay. If I let her, Mia would easily spend hours with her Sims. She's created seven of them, created elaborate backstories for each, and spent a great deal of thought dressing (and re-dressing) them. Two - Abe and Jo - are madly in love with each other. They watch hours of television together, walk Jo's dog, grow bell peppers and, occasionally, kiss. The world very briefly spun off its axis last night when Jo proposed to Abe and Abe turned her down. We reminded Mia they'd only been dating for a day.

Owen's Gameplay. Owen has two Sims, both guys. One hangs out in his house. The other just goes to the bathroom. Conveniently Owen's arranged for him to have a toilet situated in his living room so he can pee while presumably watching TV, reading a good book and entertaining. As soon as he's done going to the bathroom, Owen just makes him do it again. Then refuses to let the poor guy wash his hands.

Truth be told, before Owen I'd always thought life was a little more nurture than nature. Clearly I was wrong.

Posted by Chris at March 19, 2013 7:12 AM

Love you dearly, Chris, but two kids does not make a hard-and-fast rule. They have plenty of nurture out there to teach them this stuff.

Posted by: alektra at March 19, 2013 9:13 AM

I'm laughing here with tears in my eyes. I love what each kid did when given the opportunity to create a world. I think that you're right-- there are just some times when nature triumphs. Too funny.

Posted by: Ally Bean at March 19, 2013 9:20 AM

This made me laugh because it reminded me of when the game Sim City was popular. We had it for Playstation or Nintendo or whatever system it was back in the 90's. I would spend days and weeks setting up such a perfect city, growing and setting taxes right and fixing roads etc. Then my pre-teen son would come in and make a disaster happen and totally wipe out all my hard work! LOL!

Posted by: Lisa at March 19, 2013 10:12 AM

Oh completely! My preconceptions were of the feminist kind...that women really aren't hardwired to dress dolls and play with babies, that boys can be nurturers too, that girls will pick trucks and legos to play with just as much as princesses. My daughter has proved me so incredibly wrong. It hurts my brain to see how hardwired and different they really are. The 20 something gender warrior I was is dying a slow, agonizing death.

Posted by: rebecca at March 19, 2013 11:34 AM