June 27, 2013


I have a friend who just so happens to be gay. She got pregnant with the woman who she considers her wife but no one would legally acknowledge that. She was pregnant with twins. She suffered the usual anxieties of an expectant mother compounded by those of a mother expecting not one but two babies simultaneously arriving in her life. Compounded by the fact that she is gay, in love with another woman, and lived in a southern state which would not recognize her partner's parenthood. So she moved. Temporarily. To give birth in a place that would recognize both her and her partner as parents.

She had her twins the other day. She and her partner will return to their southern state soon to resume life as normal...or whatever the new normal is once you've brought twins into the world. But, speaking of coming into the world, those twins are coming into a world that just got a little more tolerant.

While yesterday's Supreme Court decision doesn't instantly make all these things easier, it helps. And it helps correct a massive injustice. Ask a kid about gay marriage. Don't phrase it that way but just ask if two people who love each other should be able to get married whether they're men, women or both. They'll laugh because to disallow such a thing seems ridiculous and massively counterintuitive. I remain convinced that in twenty or thirty years we'll look back at things like DOMA, collectively hang our heads and say what the hell were we thinking?

Posted by Chris at June 27, 2013 7:58 AM

As long as we recognize that we were 2 for 6 in the decisions that came down this week, that will very much help our country realize how VERY far we have to go. I'm disgusted. Glad for gay rights in specific, sad for civil rights as a whole.

Posted by: alektra at June 27, 2013 12:30 PM

While I agree with your post, I disagree with the phrase "hose twins are coming into a world that just got a little more tolerant."

It didn't. It's a huge step for the LGBT community but lets not kid ourselves into thinking this world is any more tolerant than it was last week. People still suck.

Posted by: Darren at June 28, 2013 9:47 AM

I really hope you're right. As a lesbian it sucks having to contemplate moving from my home just so I can get the same rights as everyone else. I love the South but I'm not sure I'm willing to tolerate its hate much longer.

Posted by: Jennifer at July 2, 2013 10:06 AM