November 6, 2013


If there is one story, one anecdote that describes Owen it is this.

Owen has a problem in kindergarten and that problem's name is Alex. It's unclear exactly what kind of emotional trauma Alex is going through - it could be something at home, it could be adjusting to school - but Alex is mean. For several weeks, Alex did nothing but punch Owen and get sent to the office. Then he started picking on others. He spent long stretches of time in the office, listening, I'm sure, to the assistant principal read him the riot act. And while the violence against Owen has subsided, clearly there's something going on.

Last night Owen spent a half hour with his rainbow loom and a pile of rubber bands making a bracelet for Alex. He won't listen to our advice of not engaging Alex because he's simply incapable of ignoring someone who is struggling with something. He wants to invite Alex to his birthday party. He is going out of his way to be Alex's friend, Because he figures that Alex just needs a friend. And maybe he's right.

This kid is amazing. He's frustrating, maddening, too clever for his own good and I'm pretty sure he can read every book in his room but won't tell us...but he's kind. And while I want many things for my kids, the most important to me is kindness.

Posted by Chris at November 6, 2013 7:35 AM | TrackBack

As a parent to a kid who could be "Alex" on many days I will say this.... the world needs more kids like Owen..... and more parents like the Cactus-Fish parents...... -Mutt

Posted by: Mutt at November 6, 2013 11:02 AM

My kids were like Owen - always nice to the kids even if they were being mean to them. It translates into amazing teenagers and now I have one in college and he is the same kind-hearted boy he was in kindergarten. I agree with you, I think kindness is an amazing attribute to strive for in your kids!

Posted by: natalie at November 6, 2013 3:04 PM

What a great kid. Alex may, indeed, need a friend. Or just an example of kindness and goodness in his life.

Posted by: Annie at November 6, 2013 5:06 PM

Owen rocks!

Posted by: AlisonC at November 7, 2013 5:14 AM

Dang it - and now I'm tearing up. You rock, O.

Posted by: Mindy at November 7, 2013 11:36 AM

this is purely great :)

Posted by: Heather at November 7, 2013 9:18 PM

I love this story. If there's anything I would like my kids to be, it's kind. Go Owen!!

Posted by: Akofaolain at November 12, 2013 9:49 AM
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