July 27, 2005

Dadhood...So Far

The Internetwebosphere is back! Now, where was I?

Beth, Mia and I arrived at home on Monday afternoon. We were terrified. Who were these people who called themselves nurses letting us - two totally inexperienced parents with no idea what they'd gotten themselves into - taking a living, breathing child home with them? And of course within, oh, about 32 seconds, we were plunged headlong into our first Parental Crisis - jaundice. We're getting everything under control now but its been a tough couple of days.

Can I just tell you how cool this dad thing is? On top of being quite terrifying in parts, of course. I could tell you all about the story we read this afternoon and how, despite the fact that she didn't understand a word, she looked like she was paying attention. I could tell you how completely and utterly thrilled we were when the yellow poop arrived this morning. Yes, believe it or not it is desirable. I could tell you about the discovery that she sneezes twice in rapid succession just like I do. I could tell you how insanely cute she looks when she discovers her own hand in her mouth. But that would get a little boring to you all, I'd imagine. Instead, I'll just say that the dad thing? It's cool. It's clearly brought out a side of me I didn't know existed.

Yes, yes, pictures will be coming soon...

Posted by Chris at July 27, 2005 03:22 PM

Awesome photo, that's a framer!

Posted by: Chepooka at July 27, 2005 03:26 PM

How very sweet that sounds...I do believe that you are well suited for fatherhood.

Posted by: Jennifer at July 27, 2005 03:26 PM

You have no idea how many more times that little face will amaze you.

Posted by: trb at July 27, 2005 03:26 PM

That's a beautiful picture! Hope you are doing well - continue sailing on!

Posted by: Sue at July 27, 2005 03:29 PM

wow...now, it's not that you're not a great photographer...and you always post good pictures...but THIS one...got me right in the chest...:*)

So happy for all 3 of you!

Posted by: wn at July 27, 2005 03:30 PM

I can only wish that my children had a dad as smart, sensitive, insightful and loving as you. My fault for not marrying well the first time around.

Ick... not trying to be a bummer here among the happy thoughts, but that was my first honest reaction to this post.

I think you're going to be a great father!

Posted by: mooalex at July 27, 2005 03:30 PM

Isn't it amazing how something so tiny can make the heart swell so big? Enjoy those moments that make you stare in wonderment. You've been given a gift so great and powerful that nothing else in your lifetime will even come close. That's why we did it 6 times :)

Posted by: Lori at July 27, 2005 03:30 PM

Oh man, what a picture! Yes, yellow poop is desirable and sorry to hear about the jaundice! Scary!

Posted by: jen at July 27, 2005 03:31 PM

is it the yellow that makes it special?

Posted by: jodi at July 27, 2005 03:37 PM

CONGRATULATIONS Dad!!!!!!!! Tooooo cool. :)

Posted by: Sabine at July 27, 2005 03:39 PM

4 days down, 6566 to go before she's all grown up and off to college.

Posted by: Jason at July 27, 2005 03:39 PM

Oh my god, I've been so out of it that I didn't come by until now. CONGRATULATIONS! She is gorgeous. Glad the Cactus-Fish family is doing well.

Posted by: Carla at July 27, 2005 03:50 PM

So happy for you Chris, cherish these moments where she's paying attention to you, you'll need the memories when she hits the teenage years. I'm sure you'll handle it all just fine, if yellow poop doesn't scare you (and it does me!) nothing will.

Posted by: Nic at July 27, 2005 03:58 PM

That is SO awesomly awesome!!!

Posted by: Kelly M. at July 27, 2005 03:59 PM

yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what we want. PICTURES OF THE KID.

don't piss off the Internet aunties!

(just kidding. You are already a great dad. We'll hear all your stories, promise.)

Posted by: samantha at July 27, 2005 04:03 PM

Ah, the happiness and joy emanating through the blog. I can feel it... And jaundice is so relatively easy to deal with because you can treat it with a little sunlight or a trip to the hospital tanning facilities for infants. I remember when I was bringing my firstborn home from teh hospital. I collapsed in a heap and told them there was no way I was leaving. Well, I was wrong. And I was fine! I'm sure you guys are doing just great!!

Posted by: Amy at July 27, 2005 04:06 PM

Now that picture just gave me the tinglies!! I am very happy for you and your little family... Isn't that family-feeling awsome!!

Posted by: Amber at July 27, 2005 04:08 PM

you're so cute!! love the photo!

Posted by: Tricia at July 27, 2005 04:16 PM

Are you kidding? I have a truckload of nieces and nephews and I'm still not tired of it. I'm so excited for you. :)

Posted by: Spring at July 27, 2005 04:32 PM

I should try that dad thing one day....

Posted by: FreezeM at July 27, 2005 04:32 PM

I think this is where we all say, "I told you so."

It sounds like you've had an amazing couple of days - I'm so excited for you two.

Posted by: Dawnie at July 27, 2005 04:33 PM

That's awesome, Chris. Really nice photo, too.

Posted by: Heather at July 27, 2005 04:40 PM

Did you guys get the blue box for the jaundice? Because there are few things cuter than a baby in the blue box.

I'm glad she's doing better. Can't wait to see pictures.

Posted by: Polichick at July 27, 2005 04:43 PM

Yellow skin, yellow poop...whew!
Watch that fingernail closely, once you trim it, it will regrow 10 seconds later.

Posted by: JuJuBee at July 27, 2005 04:47 PM

Many, MANY congratulations to you both! I'm so happy that everything went well. I hope Beth is recovering nicely. It's a tough thing to go through major surgery like that. The baby is beautiful and I wish you guys a nice long time in the cave as a family.

Posted by: Heather at July 27, 2005 04:59 PM

Isn't it amazing how tiny people start out?

(Can I tell you that since Mia has arrived, I've had Bohemian Rhapsody stuck in my head? Mama! Mia! Mama! Mia! Mama! Mia! Let Chris post! :)

Posted by: Jenny at July 27, 2005 05:03 PM

You got nothing on me in the sneeze department, I've hit like 22. So sad and wrong ;)

Posted by: Heather at July 27, 2005 05:04 PM

I think I just felt my ovaries kick.

Posted by: Zoe at July 27, 2005 05:06 PM

I do love a post that makes me smile at the world. Thanks Chris.

Posted by: emma at July 27, 2005 05:26 PM

what a beautiful picture, i do hope you get that framed properly for her room or your home.

i am very happy to hear that things are getting back in control with the jaundice crisis. again congratulations!

Posted by: angel at July 27, 2005 05:27 PM

Great photo!

Jaundice is no fun, but as long as you get them under the lights, it doesn't take long to go away (both my boys had it). The first couple of weeks will be your hardest, but once the sheer panic wears off, it gets a bit easier. :)

Posted by: A.K. at July 27, 2005 05:43 PM

Carry on - you are all lucky to have each other.

I absolutely love the picture. Thanks for sharing.

Posted by: cassie-b at July 27, 2005 06:15 PM

So sweet! :) love the picture! Glad everything's going well, hope Beth isn't too uncomfortable. Looking forward to seeing more photos- but you should just enjoy your little girl and don't worry about posting! :)

Posted by: Emily at July 27, 2005 06:18 PM

Congrats again! Hearing your reports really makes me want to be a father!

Posted by: Bill at July 27, 2005 06:32 PM


your a good daddy!

Posted by: Veronica at July 27, 2005 06:51 PM

No surprise here that you are loving it. You guys so obviously were going to make great parents :) Enjoy your beautiful girl :)

Posted by: DaFFy at July 27, 2005 06:54 PM

*melting* Ohhhh...that's the greatest picture!

Jaundice= sunlight and lots o'poop.

See that little fingernail? They terrify me! I could never cut them so I always bit them. It's not like she's gonna be playing in the dirt so they'll be really clean.

I'm glad things are going relatively smoothly.

Hugs to you all.


Posted by: zanie at July 27, 2005 07:08 PM

Well hell's bells. I turn my back for a little while and you go and get yerself a youngin' while I'm not-a-lookin! Congrats! Now, about her first guitar...

Posted by: sawni at July 27, 2005 07:22 PM

A. Awwwwww pretty much says it all.

B. OMG, as long as I've been coming here your FLICKR has never worked for me, but it's working today. Seems that Mia makes everything better! :)

Posted by: hr mommy at July 27, 2005 07:45 PM

awwww, yellow poop! how precious... post pics! ;)

Posted by: Dawn (webmiztris) at July 27, 2005 08:11 PM

Like I said before... There is nothing like being a daddy to a little girl. 'NUFF SAID!

Posted by: Matt at July 27, 2005 08:46 PM

What a beautiful picture. It speaks volumes. And because I haven't yet had a chance to say it, Congrats to you and Beth and Welcome Mia!! Your so lucky to have such great parents.

Posted by: T.Marie at July 27, 2005 08:57 PM

Dude, she totally has your thumb.

Sounds like you're doing great, congrats!

Posted by: Kris at July 27, 2005 10:30 PM

Awwww, how adorable. What a priceless picture. CONGRATULATIONS!

Posted by: Pink Sun Drops at July 27, 2005 10:49 PM

You melted my heart...made me tear up...and thanks I needed to feel some thing good today!

Small advice, don't cut the nails...bite them off...I accidently cut the skin on my son in the first month...I still have guilt over it! And those little baby gloves are so darn cute!

Posted by: Gypsy at July 27, 2005 10:59 PM

That photo is amazing. Congrats to both of you! You'll be great at the dad thing...

Posted by: Jen at July 27, 2005 11:10 PM

I am glad to hear you are all home and getting adjusted to each other. Parenthood is a wonderful, crazy thing. Welcome to the very exclusive club. ;)

Posted by: Nicole at July 28, 2005 07:10 AM

Ah... a tear of joy was brought to my eye...
Can't wait to experience the wonders of yellow poop someday with a child of my own...

Posted by: Stephanie at July 28, 2005 07:56 AM

gorgeous pic. congratulations dad :) mia's one lucky gal to have great parents like you and the fish

Posted by: suze at July 28, 2005 08:29 AM

What a cool freaking pic! And the rest? It just keeps getting better!

Posted by: Junkie at July 28, 2005 08:38 AM

Lucky, the master of always saying the wrong thing, says,

Man, jaundice, a bummer. I remember in 2nd grade, getting ready with my dad and sister to go pick my mother and new brother up at the hospital, and having to wait because he was under the jaundice lights.

Turned out, he just ended up being a different colored kid than the rest of us. He does not have the family 'glow.'

That is, he tans beautifully and glows with a healthy radience, while the rest of us kind of just glow in the dark with our shiny paleness.

In my 2nd grade mind, I have connected the two - jaundice & and an unbelievable ability to tan by simply standing near a window. She will probably thank you some day for being born a bit yellow, it will save her skin in the future when she doesn't have to lie out for hours (in a bikini, with boys walking by)

See, it's a good thing!

**Disclaimer: not only does lucky NEVER know anything comforting or even halfway appropriate to say, she is also NOT a doctor and jaundice and pretty tans are absolutely not connected, and her brother is most likely just a lucky SOB**

Posted by: lucky at July 28, 2005 08:40 AM

Aww. You're a great dad already, I can tell.

Posted by: Fraulein N at July 28, 2005 08:43 AM

Love this picture! I agree with Chepooka - this one should go on the mantle!

Congrats again, I can't wait to see more pics. :)

Posted by: Kitty at July 28, 2005 08:43 AM

Yellow poop comes out days later? There is so much to learn!

I read about your wife's bleeding nipple. Okay I am now scared of breastfeeding. Thanks for sharing your story and now I have things to look forward to!

Posted by: mrsmogul at July 28, 2005 09:58 AM

Every baby I know had jaundice when they first came out and every single one of them is extremely cute and extremely good natured. Jaundice for all! Anyway, when you get a chance to breathe, give yourself a little credit.

Posted by: verucaamish at July 28, 2005 10:03 AM

My son had jaundice too. And colic. But it all gets better. I'm so glad you guys are so happy together. And I'm so glad you took family leave to enjoy it.

Posted by: Queen of Ass at July 28, 2005 10:15 AM

I had jaundice as a baby, and it all turned out ok!

I love that photo, and I'm so glad you're finding it wonderful to be a dad.

Posted by: bad penguin at July 28, 2005 10:25 AM

The sneezing thing is adorable! I always wondered if little random things like that are passed down or not.

Posted by: supine at July 28, 2005 10:25 AM

So happy you're hooked back up to the internet! Can't wait for pics!

Posted by: RockStar Mommy at July 28, 2005 10:33 AM

:-) Great to hear that you aren't freaking out anymore, and enjoying instead.

Posted by: indigo at July 28, 2005 10:55 AM

Congratulations on your baby. Being a father can be a wonderful and frightening experience. I wish you and the Mrs. all the joy that your little one can bring you.

Posted by: Strode at July 28, 2005 11:05 AM

Congratulations. Two things all the dads in the world told me before I had my first son.

1. You can't imagine how much it changes EVERYTHING
2. You can't imagine how GOOD it is.

They were right, you have to experience it to know it. Congrats again! Beautiful baby.

Posted by: Mayberry at July 28, 2005 11:10 AM

Love the picture! You guys are doing a great job I am sure.

Posted by: Jazzy at July 28, 2005 11:43 AM

That is the most awesome photo. I'm so glad to hear that things are going so well (which, of course, I had no doubt about). :)

Posted by: Zandria at July 28, 2005 01:03 PM

that picture is beautiful! frame worthy! :)

Posted by: tiffanie at July 28, 2005 07:42 PM

Wow, awesome picture:)

Posted by: Adi at July 29, 2005 02:09 AM

That is the cutest picture ever!!!

Posted by: Nina at July 29, 2005 07:36 AM

That is a great picture, Chris. I hope you had it blown up and put it in a frame with super acid free paper. Nice. :)

Posted by: Jon in Michigan at July 29, 2005 03:30 PM

oh, that sounds wonderful, what a happy papa you are!

Posted by: lizabetty at August 2, 2005 06:46 PM